Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Sunday, June 29, 2008

Wife secret

Sometime when you come back from home and notice that your wife look difference from usual day. Then as a husband, you should be thinking what is happening to my wife. Talk to her if she gives opportunity to discuss. This is the nature of female. They are sensitive and emotional compare with male. Sorry to say for those successful corporate woman. Even through they are successful in their sector but this behaviour still remain in their soul. This is a beautiful of Him. He is a great creator where He generate a nature environment. In chinese, we call it yin & yang environment or in general term, we call it positive (+) or negative (-). Male is categoried in Yan while female are in Yin group.
Nowadays, we can listen many divorce cases either in western and eastern countries. From my observation, I realised that the rate of divorce is higher in well developed state or country. Let us see back our grandfather or grandmother time, did you heard about this wording. I do not think they know such word because they are poor. This is the main key word. Do you realise that most of the divoice parent are highly educated or in "rich" categories.
Why divoice happen? There are many reason behind it.
1. Communication
Lack of communication is part of the reason. Most of the parent in city are working and hardly they are able to talk. If you are in this category. I would like to say that you need to work hard either in working environment or in family environment. Every male (husband) are responsible to earn income for a family but today woman also force to carry this burden. Thus, we can see this is a difficult situation where husband and wife need to work to survive in city life. Usually, both parties will be exhausted when they reached home. Who will be prepared the dinner? For me, definately my wife because she is better in cooking. I am luckily because my wife only a housewife and she will take care all the home matter. I do not know how those working parent manage their home.
Please bear in mind that a successful home is a combination of coorperation and responsible from husband and wife. Do you still remember how you tackle your wife before marriage? I sure you marry a beautiful and lovely wife. A lot of young man will do "crazy" things to attract female including me. If you calculated the cost you invest in your marriage, it should be very costly. Am I right? The question now is are you still buy present for your "girlfriend" after marriage. The respond is very sadly. A lot of excuses from male especially you have dozen of children.
2. Behaviour
Female used to clean area and this is why they like their home in neatly and hygience. While male explode to working environment and usually have "male smell". Before marriage, your "girlfriend" like your smell but after she controls you. She will attempt to avoid this smell spread to other females. They will ask you to change cloth when weather is hot. They do not mind to wash because they want their husband in neat and clean. Thus, as a husband. tolerance with your wife and we should be grateful because we always in clean and handsome.
3. Positive in problem solution
We can not deny that forming a home is not an easy task. Any kinds of problem can be facing by us. There is no point a couple quarrel because it would not benefit any side. Image how you are able to marry your "girlfriend" since there are many pretty girls surrounding you. Is it amazing? This is faith where He arrange on the top there. This is where you and your girlfriend has same point then subsequently with His great power. He merge you and your girlfriend in harmony. Since you and your wife now in the same mode. Why we can not solve small matter in our life? This is why choice your life partner is vital. I was young before, the first impression is a girl appearence. Everybody like to see beautiful girl including me. There is the first option when we select our life partner. Secondly and I can say it is an important factor in successful marriage. The attitude of the girl. Thirdly, the religious. Religious is something like a backbone of a happiness home. You can have pretty and successful wife but do not have religious thinker. Then, your home is not perfect yet. Religious is a path that guilde you to lead a hapiness family.
Wife secret is a wide scope and I am unable to tell everything. I just want to share some after I become a husband. Everyday, I am in the proceed of learning to become a perfect husband. Loyal and love your life partner will guarantee your home.

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Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Fear


I could not sleep well for the past few days because this “thing” has been disturbing my mind and subsequently to my work. It create an unhappinesss to my living style. It is an sensitive issue especially when we talk about religion. I think blog is the best way to express my problem and hopefully somebody can give me some guildline.

No doubt that believe to God is important because human is a created by Him. “We need to obey Him and love Him before He can able to love us” where my boss used to mention this sentences very regularly when he talk to me.

There are many religions in this world such as Islam, Buddha, christian, Hindu, and etc. All the religion has only one direction. Pray and obey to Him.

I really do not understand why people want to force or influence other people to believe one religion. We can not say Islam or Christian is a bad religion because religion never ask His follower to say like that.

Forcing people to get into a religion. What you can earn? If we do not like the religion, there is no point that particular person in that religion. Believe in God or religion is no a “Direct Selling” business. No people can give warrantly you can go to heaven if you are in that religion.

Please think....I do not hurt people because of religion matter and cause a break between the family. What is family? What is the meaning of happiness? Why we need to show off? Why we need to threated other? Look at ourselve. Are we perfect?

In a happiness family, we can have many religion such as Malaysia. There are many races such as Malay, chinese, india and etc and we still can live in peaceful. The secret is “respect people”.

I still remember my former Operation Director told me that “Lai, earn people respect before people respect you.”